How to love yourself no matter what shape or size

How to love yourself no matter what shape or size

Welcome to Bloom.  It stands for Biblically Living Out Our Mission.  What does that look like?  I believe we are all on a journey to become who we were created to be.  We are all physical, emotional, and spiritual beings.  Notice I said “beings” not “doings” we are human beings not human’s doings.  Most of us usually think “what am I supposed to be doing with my life?  Why am I here? What is my purpose?” but I think the question we should be asking is “who was I created to be?”

That was the question I started asking when I was 22 years old and a senior at UCF. I had hit a wall academically and relationally. I was a nanny part -time and worked at the public library part-time all while going to UCF. Studying different subjects, dating different subjects, but nothing seemed to fit. The surfer, the baseball player, the volleyball player, the soccer player, these guys all had their hobbies but no ambition or motivation to grow up and focus on a career!

I met a girl named Karen who shared with me how I could know God, the one who created me. 26 years ago, in a subway sub shop Karen explained to me how to have a relationship with God through faith in Jesus. I accepted the invitation to get to know my creator, God, and it’s been quite a journey. One line in the prayer said, “Make me the kind of person you want me to be” that resonated with me the most.

No matter where you are on your path physically, emotionally, or spiritually, we need to be intentional to develop all three areas of our lives to be a whole and complete person.  Without wholeness we will always be searching for fulfillment and significance.

So how do we develop these areas in our life? And why did I want to share a message titled “How to love yourself no matter what shape or size?”  I think both questions have the same answer.

One day at a time. How many times do you brush your teeth in one day? Usually 1-3 times daily, Right?  If you have been doing that for your entire life so far, what condition are your teeth in today? Clean, white, no cavities, no root canals, etc. The daily discipline to brush your teeth gave you clean breath and pretty teeth.

I believe this applies to everything.  Spiritually, if I had not learned what the Bible said about who God is, I would still be fearful of Him and afraid to pray to Him.  If I had not spent time listening to others and hearing their experience with God, I would not have the faith I do today. Every prayer I prayed 26 years ago has been answered.  Isaiah 55:8-9 says,

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

I did not always have my act together. 17 years ago, September 2002 I went to church on a Wednesday night in Tampa where I was living at the time.  I ran into a guy at church who helped me with my broken-down car. I thought he was a Christian because I met him at church.  Long story short, within 6 months, I lived with him, he stole all of my money, he was a drug addict, and the worst part was he was married with two girls living in another state. I had no idea. I left him and was homeless for about two weeks sleeping on friend’s couches and living out of my car. I moved back to Orlando, slept on my parent’s couch for two weeks and restarted my life with only a car and a suitcase of clothes at the age of 32. It was humiliating and hubling to say the least.

But I prayed. What I mean to say is I cried out to God like never before!

Fast forward 17 years later where I’m happily married 14 years. We moved into a house with a pool that was built in 2002. I was floating around my pool praising God for answered prayers. The prayer I prayed in 2002 was for this house. God was building it and preparing this place for me 17 years ago.  Now I have the life I always wanted.

What prayers are you praying for your future?  Where do you want to be 5 years from now? 17 years from now? Maybe God is building your house this year or preparing your future husband for you.

Jeremiah 33:3 says, “Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.”

And Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

The seeds we plant when we pray or spend time in the Word with God is an investment into your future spiritual growth.

The same happens to us physically. When we love ourselves enough to invest time in eating healthy food, exercising 30 minutes a day a few times a week, and brushing our teeth, we reap the rewards down the road!  

Same with washing our face! That’s where I started in my 20’s learning about skincare. Remember I mentioned I was nanny during college.  Well, that rich lady who had 3 beautiful, amazing kids, a nanny, a housekeeper who cooked and did laundry too so she had time to get facials, workout, eat healthy, and shop like no one I’ve ever known .  She was my hero.  She had it all in my eyes.  But she was missing one thing, she was jealous of my 20-year-old skin and told me to take care of it.  She even took me to her facial lady and they both taught me about taking care of my skin.

I could not afford the facial lady every month but my friend introduced me to BeautiControl products where I could do my own facials at home, tell others about it and make some money.  I used their stuff for over 20 years until the business changed owners.

I recently got involved with Rodan and Fields because I believe in using one brand for everything so that I’m not mixing chemicals on my face.  I really wanted the Eyelash Boost the most! I kept seeing other friends like Greta Mostellar using the products and becoming consultants so I knew I wanted to take the plunge and join them.

A daily skincare regimen is the key to looking younger one day at a time.  It’s part of loving ourselves and caring for those who have to look at us when we are 80 years old. 

Remember, no matter where you are on your path physically, emotionally, or spiritually, we need to be intentional to develop all three areas of our lives to be a whole and complete person.  Without wholeness we will always be searching for fulfillment and significance.

That is what Bloom in Jax is all about. We are going to continue having events with different themes, different speakers, and showcasing different young women, like Greta Mostellar, who are living out their mission! Follow us on Meet Up or Bloom in Jax on Facebook  if you are interested in finding out about Rodan and Feilds products and business venture, go to